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Here at the Ranch it seems like there are endless activities and talks.  Everything from nutrition, fitness, mental health, spirituality, art and nature.  So why not love too?  World renowned therapist Linda Carrol is doing a three-part series on the cycles of love based on her upcoming book, Love’s Cycles.

I had dinner with Linda last week and she suggested that I come to her talk later that night and I’m so glad I did.  Her talk was so enlightening and made me think of “love” in a new way.  Especially since I’m engaged and getting married soon, it was very important to hear all of this information!

Basically there are five cycles of love according to Linda:

  1. The Merge-“We two are one.”
  2. Doubt & Denial-“We two are one and I am the one.”
  3. Disillusionment-“All’s fair in love and war.”
  4. A Decision-“Indecision becomes decision with time.”
  5. Wholehearted Loving-“The only journey is the one within.”

Does any of this sound familiar?  I think all of us who are in a relationship or were in one can relate to these cycles.  Not everything is perfect or how we want it all the time no matter how good of a relationship we are in.  Also, it’s good to know that everyone goes through similar issues and we’re not alone!  The best part is that we can be in a loving fulfilling relationship even if we’ve gone through Doubt & Denial and Disillusionment.

What I found very interesting is the scientific aspect of love which Linda goes into detail about in her talk.  It was so fascinating.  I had no idea how much our brain changes chemically when we “fall in love”.

Linda was a delight to listen to.  She brings so much common sense to the table and humor as well as information about why we act the way we do and how to create meaningful long-lasting love.  You can learn more about Linda at her website,

Linda is also coming out with her new book Love’s Cycles soon.  Click the link for an advanced copy of the first chapter.